In this October edition of Empathic Musings, we will be diving into the world of Energetic Boundaries.
Have you ever walked into a room and suddenly felt heavy? The old adage “you can cut the tension with a knife” ring a bell? We have all been there and oy vey, it’s a less than desired feeling. As an empath or HSP; undesired energies often sneak up on us a little differently. We frequently have this feeling in a room full of people, even friends; no matter the ambiance of the room.
What do you do in these situations?
- Back out slowly with your finger firmly attached to the ride-share app on your phone
- Melt into a puddle of anxious goo in the corner
- Head for the open bar/ buffet table and medicate
- It’s all a little fuzzy I cannot recall
Safety is a Universal need which relates to the first energy center below the feet. Until we feel safe, we are not free to learn, heal, or reach our fullest spiritual and human potential. The soul task relates to the soul feeling safe in 3rd dimension form on planet Earth.
Safety has many meanings relating to physical, emotional and energetic needs. We are taught physical safety from childhood and throughout life however, most of us weren’t taught what energetic boundaries are and even fewer of us were taught as children how to set them. An energetic boundary is like an invisible layer of skin around our energetic and emotional body that helps us to define where we begin and end in relation to others. This self-awareness helps us to monitor our energy level, recognize when our sacred self is being violated, and discern what kind of physical boundaries best serve our well-being and happiness. When boundaries are strong compassion comes from an authentic place and not a people pleasing behavior.
Read that last sentence again dear soul.
Energetic boundaries are subtle, invisible, and profoundly felt. Losing them happens when you merge with other people’s feelings and you lose your sense of self. Energetically speaking, boundaries are the container of self, where you end and another begins. It’s being in your own skin and being in charge of that. As HSP and empaths we so often find ourselves “swimming” in a pool of energies we lose sight of our boundaries. Need a flashing light to let you know when you may be merging with others?
Here’s your sign…….
- You’ve become confused about a conversational topic and merge with other people and their issues.
- When you experience a sudden shift in emotion or sensation.
- What you are feeling is not matching your current circumstances.
- You say yes when you want to say no.
- When you lose clarity about a truth you firmly believe in.
- You become suddenly anxious and overwhelmed for no apparent reason.
- You feel guilty for dedicating time to yourself.
- You often fear what others think of you.
So…what do you do?
- Immediately stop what you are doing. Excuse yourself if you must. Take a deep breath and say a word or phrase that is meaningful or helpful and brings you back to yourself in that moment.
- Say your own name, to help bring you back into your own experience. Do it three times if necessary.
- Ask yourself: “Is this my problem or emotion?” If not, “Whose is it?” You will know the answer immediately. Do not question the first feeling or answer to this question. If it does not belong to you send it back or better even…allow it to pass through and leave changed. Transmute that junk! Either way let it go.
- Work to name what happened. For example, “I just arrived to this gathering and things feel tense.”
- Name 3 differences between you and people or things around you. For example, gender, attire color or style, likes/dislikes or even hair color. This will help you separate from the person and further establish physical vs energetics.
These methods work great when we suddenly find ourselves lost in those moments. In October’s EmBox we have curated a lovely experience to help you navigate creating and keeping your boundaries.
This month we are so excited about our travelling smudge kit inspired by one of our most fabulous Fairy friends and the Queen of little things. Jessica my sweet vibrational sound therapist is very in tune with her energetic surroundings and always, always, always has a little tin of sage and whatnots. We recreated our version with a “Got Sage” tin including loose sage, matches and black salt which is great for protection and creating boundaries. Empath Aura Protection Mist is also coming your way to mist those jujus right out of your hair. What protection kit would be complete without a chunk of raw Black Tourmaline? Not yours! To keep these little treasures together we have for you an “I’m all light & love and a little go smudge yourself” zippered pouch.
Socrates had it right when he said “know thyself” and Shakespeare came in a close second when he wrote “to thine own self be true”. To accomplish these in our own lives, we must spend time with our selves. How else do you learn than to immerse into a subject with research, experience and dedication. This month we will do this with “Meditations for the Soul” by Neale Lundgren PhD; packed full of meditations and musings to help you reconnect with your soul and strengthen your sense of self and purpose.
We’ve included an Earth friendly recycled journal just for keeping track of your meditations and what you are learning about yourself. Its perfect for getting creative with the cover and pages and letting your soul shine through. Grab some markers, crayons or colored pencils you have tucked away and the Washi Stickers we included in your box…. go let out that inner child and let them lead you to your very SOUL! Remember…. you are worth it…. you are ENOUGH…. just the way you are…you are ENOUGH!
Thanks for musing here with me! Let’s get together virtually this month and muse out-loud about all this fantastical stuff! Till then my beautiful souls.
Check out the beautiful fairy who inspired October’s EmBox……..https://www.facebook.com/harmoniasong
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